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A Conversation Worth Having: My Guest Appearance on the Hidden Secrets in Books Podcast

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I recently sat down with the host of the Hidden Secrets in Books Podcast for a conversation that went straight to the heart of what I’ve been called to do, helping men find freedom through faith, honesty, and the courage to finally ask for help. It’s always a little different sitting on the guest side of the mic, but the message doesn’t change, no matter who’s asking the questions. Men are hurting, men are hiding, and men are searching for more. This conversation gave us the space to talk about all three. WHY ASKING FOR HELP IS THE STARTING LINE, NOT THE FINISH LINE We opened with a question I get asked in almost every interview, and for good reason: why is it so hard for men to ask for help? I talked about how men become experts at burying fear, shame, and pain—pushing it down and hoping it never resurfaces. But it always does. A life of real freedom starts with a relationship with Jesus Christ, and from that foundation, a man can finally take an honest look i...
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How to Lead Your Family When You Don’t Feel Like a Leader True Man Podcast Episode #249 | Available wherever you listen to podcasts

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Most men want to lead their families. Very few feel equipped to do it. And that gap, between the man you know you’re supposed to be and the man you feel like on any given Tuesday, is where more men get stuck than anywhere else. So let’s name the lie that’s keeping you there. The Lie That Keeps Men Passive The lie is simple: leadership is a feeling. That real leaders feel confident, feel ready, feel equipped before they step up. That if you’re uncertain, if you look at your marriage, your kids, your home, and feel the weight of what’s required and aren’t sure you’re up to it, you should wait. Get more together first. Figure it out. Then lead. That is not how leadership works. That is not how God has ever called a man. Joshua didn’t feel ready to lead after Moses died. He was terrified. And God’s response was—get your confidence together first. It was: “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, ...
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TRUE MASCULINITY BEGINS WITH SURRENDER: MY CONVERSATION ON CRAZY AMAZING GOD STORIES

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There’s a moment in most men’s lives where the mask slips—where the job title, the house, the car, and all of it stops being enough to hold you together. I had that moment on a Saturday morning at a men’s retreat in Virginia, standing in a room full of guys, listening to a Josh Groban song called “You Were Loved,” when God said something to me I’ll never forget: I want an intimate relationship with you. You’re my beloved son. I got to unpack that story and a lot more as a guest on Crazy Amazing God Stories , hosted by David Leadbetter. If you’ve never heard of the show, it’s built around a simple, powerful idea: ordinary people sharing extraordinary moments of God revealing His power, grace, and love in everyday life. David gave the episode the title “True Masculinity Begins with Surrender,” and honestly, I can’t think of a better summary of everything I believe about being a man. WHAT WE TALKED ABOUT David and I...
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A Billion People Were Watching — And America Showed Up

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I need to be honest with you before we go any further. I am not a soccer guy. Fifty years of Saturdays and Sundays trained me in football, not futbol. I couldn’t tell you the offside rule if my life depended on it, and I’ve never once organized my calendar around a match. So, when I tell you the last 40 days changed how I think about this sport and how proud I am of my own country, that’s not coming from a lifelong fan. It’s coming from a man who watched the world show up on our doorstep and watched us answer the door well. Here’s what I mean. THE WHOLE WORLD WAS WATCHING The Spain-Argentina final wasn’t just a game. It was, by some estimates, watched by over a billion people worldwide. In Spain, the match averaged 15.7 million viewers, an 87.1% share of all viewers watching television that night. In the U.K., 13.9 million tuned in for a 64% share. Those aren’t rounding errors. That’s a nation stopping what it’s doing, together,...
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Why So Many Men Are Lonely — And What the Bible Says About It/ True Man Podcast | True Man Podcast Episode 248

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Fifty-three thousand men a month search the phrase “male loneliness” on YouTube alone. Not because they’re looking for a diagnosis. Because they’re looking for someone to tell them they’re not the only one. You are not the only one. The Paradox Nobody Is Talking About Here is what makes this moment so striking. You are more connected right now than any generation in human history. More contacts, more followers, more group chats, more ways to reach and be reached than your grandfather knew people in his entire lifetime. And yet something feels hollow. Something that used to have a name — brotherhood, friendship, fellowship, community — feels like it exists everywhere except in your actual life. That is not a weakness. That is not a character flaw. That is the great disconnect of our time. How We Got Here We built a world optimized for efficiency — and stripped out the conditions that real friendship requires. Friendship—the kind that actually know...
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Major League Baseball Reminded Me What Innocence Looked Like at the All-Star Game

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Last night I was watching the MLB All-Star Game, half paying attention like most of us do these days, when they rolled a clip that stopped me cold. Kids on bikes. Gloves hanging off the handlebars. Racing each other down a street to get to practice on time. That was it. No dramatic music. No highlight-reel play. Just a picture of something that used to be ordinary, and something I hadn’t thought about in years, came rushing back. The Bike Was Freedom I grew up in the 80s, and if you did too, you know exactly what I’m talking about. You didn’t get a ride to practice. You didn’t get picked up. You grabbed your glove, hopped on your bike, and got there, because if you didn’t, you weren’t playing. Every kid in my town did the same thing. Not because someone forced us. Because that’s just what you did. It wasn’t a lesson anybody sat us down and taught. It was baked into the way we lived. And here’s what I remember most: there was no...
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WHAT RIP WHEELER CAN TEACH EVERY MAN ABOUT BEING SEEN True Man Podcast — Episode #247

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There are television characters we enjoy, and then there are characters that strike something much deeper. Rip Wheeler from Yellowstone is one of those men. On the surface, he appears to be everything our culture admires in masculinity. Strong. Dependable. Courageous. Loyal. Willing to do the hard jobs no one else wants to do. He doesn’t complain. He doesn’t seek attention. He simply shows up and gets the work done. But I don’t think that’s why millions of men connect with him. Men see themselves in Rip Wheeler not because of the toughness but because beneath the toughness is a longing that almost every man understands. A desire to be seen. Known. Valued for who he is, not just for what he accomplishes. That’s where the story becomes bigger than a television show. THE FORTRESS MOST MEN BUILD Most men were never taught how to process pain. They were taught to push through it. To stay busy. To work harder. To solve problems. To carry the weight and ke...
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